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Go Palestine!


I’m rooting for ya!

Palestinian UN Bid Gets Thumbs Up.

But THEN!!

Israel continues its bullying ways.

There’s more

Reactions to this on Global Research site.

The Fine Print from AlJazeera.

aaaaand we all know which way the US voted on this *facepalms*. This was a missed opportunity to put politics ASIDE and do the RIGHT THING for once. Israel doesn’t need backing from anyone. They seem to be doing just fine bombing women and children “back to the stone age” all by themselves. Its way past the time we extricated ourselves from that whole thing.

I guess that was asking too much.

There’s more but you know how to use google I’m sure.


For those of you who dunno:

1. I’m not anti-semitic. I’ve kept my mouth shut on this for YEARS because as a Black person, the second you say something bad about Israel suddenly you hate Jewish people. See the vid on my previous post to know exactly where I’m coming from on this issue.

2. No, I’m not Muslim. I’m a Buddhist actually. But why can’t I just be a human being who wishes that intense human interactions could be conducted fairly and without bullying and bloodshed?

3. Yeah, I voted for Obama and I’m pissed off at him and my government and they need to come correct on Israel like yesterday. Those nekulturny dunderheads over in Norway or Sweden or wherever the heck it is that awarded him the Nobel PEACE prize…*shakes head sadly*


and this is what was really going on


If you don’t know, now you know.

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Stop The Killing

When I see stats like these:

45 Palestinians dead; 3 Israelis dead.

I have to wonder at the obvious imbalance of it all.

The Buddhist and Quaker in me is mortally offended at any war at all, and my compassion for the injured dead and dying on all sides hurts me to the bone.


I knew that there would come a time when our hand-in-glove relationship with Israel would have to come up on a reckoning.

Shame on you President Obama with your backing of “right to defend” nonsense. You know good and damn well Israel “defends” itself by being the aggressor and raining down death on Gaza.

But I guess you are used to that what with all your drones you got going on.


Where is the United Nations? What about Human Rights?

Are we just to stand by and watch people kill each other? How are we “civilized” nations that we cannot deal with our problems in any other way?

“The United States has given us full backing to take whatever measures are necessary to defend our citizens against Hamas terror.”

Thank you Michael Oren. Yet another reason for me to be embarrassed to be a US Citizen.

In early 2009, a ground war in Gaza left some 1,400 Palestinians dead, the vast majority civilians, in a conflict that was similarly intended to stop rockets from being fired from the region. Thirteen Israelis were also killed.

Again, I hate to bring up numbers but LOOK AT THAT!! What on The Good Green Earth do think is going to happen if there is a continuation and a repeat of hostilities?


Somebody has to do something. I am brought to mind the picture of that lone Chinese man standing in front of those tanks. Enough is enough. What is it going to take?

I leave you with this statement because maybe my words have little weight. Who am I but an ordinary human being who simply wants the killing to stop?


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Just want to thank all you Fam and Friends who got out there and ROCKED THE VOTE! Who all saved the day: Record numbers of Black voters, young voters, WOMEN, and the Latino voters who are a force that every politician needs to reckon with from here on out.

Really great day for my LGBT peeps too so YAY!!

That is the Sweet. Here comes the Bitter.


Very bad taste in my mouth. I’m a Black Woman in America. I’ve had to deal with racism in so many different ways all the time, every day. Nothing new. Unlike those squigits talking about “post racial America” I figured there would be a backlash to Obama’s election the first time around and I was right, but I wasn’t expecting the racists to be so unashamed about it. That was the only surprise.

Actually no. I was surprised that they went and created a whole political party/faction around their racism and even won major seats in our governing body running primarily on their racist agenda and little else.


I want to share with you some of the stuff that got thrown around in the last four years. Maybe you missed it, maybe you’ve forgotten some of it. I think we need to remember and never forget. Because until this country deals with its deeply rooted origins of white supremacy and racism we will not make it.

~That young Black man shot by police officers on the eve of Obama’s inauguration. Nothing new there, Black men are shot and killed by the Po-Po all the time in this country. Business as usual no matter who is president.

~Harvard scholar Henry Louis Gates arrested in his own home. Suspicious behavior called in by a neighbor. Gates got off lucky. Black, male and “suspicious” is a death sentence these days.

~Just ask Trayvon Martin. Profiled, hunted down and shot point blank. Murdered because he was Walking While Black.

~New York has a wonderful Stop and Frisk Program going on right now. Blacks and Latinos are being targeted nearly exclusively. Watch THIS VIDEO to see exactly what is going on there. Apartheid much? More on this LINK HERE.




~A Spanish magazine features The First Lady of the United States of America as a partially nude SLAVE on their cover.

~RNC attendees throw peanuts at a Black camerawoman and shout “this is how we feed the animals” at her.

~That racist agenda I was talking about? There are so many examples, but Tim Wise gathered nearly all of them in one place. If it walks and talks like a duck… Happy perusing! He’s got even more if you’re not sure I’m telling the truth on this.

That is called Southern Strategy. It is old and nothing new. In American politics, the Southern strategy refers to the Republican Party strategy of gaining political support or winning elections in the Southern section of the country by appealing to racism against African Americans.


This is what you do with a Black male to keep him in his place. You never acknowledge him being an adult. You infantilize him. You always call him “boy”. And if he still gets too uppity you chop off his foot or castrate him and lynch him from the nearest tree and then set his body on fire when you’re done.

Did you hear GOP elected officials, surrogates and pundits calling Obama “a child” and saying things like “let the adults handle things” or refer to his policies as “infantile”? Well I heard them, and those words were not chosen idly.

Obama being hung in effigy via a noose got so commonplace I barely twitched an eyelid. Many got creative and started hanging empty chairs after the RNC, and this past Halloween brought those wannabe lynchers out in droves.


What was your response to seeing the President of the United States showing his long form birth certificate? Were you slightly miffed that all “that birther nonsense” had gotten that far? Click below and experience what that was like for Black America to see the leader of the free world being asked to show his papers.



If this is still confusing to you, then this will help make things very clear:



The GOP and its members tells people like me things like this:

Black kids better off during slavery than they are today because back then they had a two parent family.

Slavery was actually a blessing for Black people!


And now we come to the response of white America to the results of Election 2012. We got The Donald calling down a Jihad on Democrats. We got people on facebook and twitter talking about how they are going to ditch out of the USA and move to Canada. Or Australia. Might want to research up a bit before ditching, cuz Australia: “for all you Americans talking about moving here, our PM is a single atheist female, we have national healthcare and mandatory voting.” Best tweet evar.

Speaking of twitter here are just a few of the torrential gushing of racist posts in reaction to Obama’s win.

Another comment I copied from the web:

My homegirl Noelle said one of her co-workers facebook status this morning was:

“I guess fried chicken will be free all day today. Congrats”


Like I said, America has a serious problem and it didn’t just crop up because we had the audacity to elect a Black president that first time. Or this time around again. There is the institutionalized and systemic racism and there is the racism of the citizens themselves.

I am in less danger than say Doover or my son – I might survive walking down the street or being deemed “suspicious”. I might survive my next doctor’s visit, or I might be considered trash and ignored and be LEFT TO DIE. Little Black kids playing and driving their go-carts COULD HAVE BEEN KILLED simply because the color of their skin made them a target.


You don’t get to skip off from responsibility like that woman did, nearly killing those children and not even getting a ticket much less arrested. Something needs to be done to get this country turned around and living up to its true potential.

I know there are civil rights groups and what all that you can turn to to help with this huge project.  You were a bunch of damn hypocrites to think all was right in our world because look we did a good thing and elected Barack in 2008. You can’t even cry the same game this time around, because the alternative was so disgusting, pretty much anyone damn else would have been the better option.

You should thank the GOP and their Southern Strategy machinations for bringing the racism out into the foreground. Now you can’t pretend that it doesn’t exist anymore. That its really “not that bad actually”. You have to begin to understand what the real America is. I know its heartbreaking. Trust me, I know. You want to believe that the America you THINK should be or WISH should be is – but the reality is much more sobering. But they say that the Truth shall set you Free. So why not start there?

Be warned. This sort of thing will happen a LOT when you confront a white person with their own racism:

“…whites’ chronic misunderstanding of the nature and mechanisms of racism so we hear racists calling out minorities for being racists for calling racists out on their racism”.

Don’t get caught in that web. Refocus, bring things back around. Think of it like AA – once you acknowledge the problem – that is the first HUGE step and you are ready to get to work and change your life, other peoples lives and hey our country and maybe the world?

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What She Said

Despite my (unfortunately usual) heavy dose of meds – some of them supposed to help me sleep too – I woke up 3:30am-ish (about an hour ago) struggling up out of a nightmare I can’t quite remember (thankfully) but now destined to not be able to fall back asleep.

Welcome to my world. This sort of thing happens a lot. Especially when I’m under any kind of stress. Which is like almost always these days.

So while I’m forced to think deep about my life, the world and the future in this still of the night, I thought it would be nice to make you do the same too.


I can’t understand why any woman would want to vote for Mitt Romney
-Madeleine Albright

CLICK HERE to read the full article.

In this post right here I talk about being a feminist from the word go. But you see, its not even about that anymore. If you are a human being and you have even an ounce of compassion for fellow human beings: can you not see what is happening?

I had wondered as I traversed my path to and through adulthood if there ever was going to come a time when we as human beings would have enough of the status quo.

This woman Right Here had enough.

What has gone on in the past and in the present is not anywhere near enough and indeed has not worked. I cried out for men to step up and start teaching, for White people to step up and start teaching. We the so-called minorities have been teaching and teaching and teaching and it is clearly Not Enough.


If you are still stuck on “my team must win” when it comes to Election 2012 then you are woefully behind the times. It isn’t about teams and the color blue or red. It is about us staking a claim for our human-ness and our innate compassion for humanity.

I believe in the inherent goodness of human kind. There are some who believe the opposite. That we are base creatures and our basic nature is to destroy, divide and to conquer everything and anything.

I say once we evolved intellect, intelligence and became thinking and reasoning beings: we lost our right to behave as if we had none of that. You might notice that I’ve been very careful to avoid using words like “animal” and “reptile brain” and all that.

In this day and age we could take some lessons from animals on certain behaviors and you know what I’m talking about and you know this is true.


When you go to vote on Election Day you need to take a stand. Take a stand for your mother, your grandmother and all the women in your family. For your sister, your niece, for your daughter for the women who are coming in the future.

And you must also do it for males as well. Just as slavery in this country devastated the Black people under its yoke; it also ruined and wrecked those who owned slaves and benefited from that institution. While there might have been financial and class and economic gains what matters any of that when you’ve lost your soul? Women under the yoke devastates us, and the males that benefit from our oppression powerlessness – look to your souls.

How power corrupts!

How am I even alive right now drawing breath?

To see that people to this day do not understand that I am a human being. That I am a person. That I am just the same as you.

Have you lived as an alien on this planet? Have you been rendered invisible? Have you been screaming into the hurricane winds and nobody hears even a whisper?

How these things fracture our society and make a mockery of our moniker “The United States” when the majority of its citizens (there are 4.8 million MORE females than males in the USA) are under siege and are still being denied the same basic equal and human rights as the rest of the citizens.

And you want to make the leader of our broken lands someone who will not only continue the status quo but actively work against all the strides forward we have already made, and work actively to tear down anyone and anything that wants those rights or gets in the way.


I wonder how things will be in a few short months.

I wonder just what it might take for Americans to see the truth in the world.

These are the same Americans – democrats and republicans alike – who fell hook line and sinker for the stories Bush told after 9/11. And many oh so many way too many families have paid for those stories with the blood of their children.

I think Romney is counting on all of those Americans. Counting on them to close their eyes, ears and hearts to that inner voice that clearly and always states what is right and what is wrong and rings the bell of basic human decency.

I’m counting on those Americans to have wised up some. To have opened their hearts, minds, ears and eyes in the interim. To have seen the truth finally and to have understood that higher and deeper things are at stake than just winning an election or having your team win.

If it turns out I’m living in a world that continues to keep itself blind to what is right and what is good – then I’m hitching a ride on the next mission to Mars.

I’m out.

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That Being Said…

Our own DNC is looming on the horizon.

We’ll have our share of oops moments too I’m sure.

Like I’ve said before: Lesser of Two Evils. Sometimes it comes down to just that.

Now I know we’ve enjoyed the historical (and faboo I might add) presence of having a Beautiful Black First Family for four years, buuuut the Dems are still a bastion of older White males – so stuff isn’t going to always be comfy for me.

But dang ok see this right here??

Go ahead and read it. I’ll post the first paragraph to get you on your way:

“Fresh from giving the leading prayer at the Republican National Convention, Cardinal Timothy Dolan will also be giving the closing prayer at the Democratic National Convention. Given Dolan’s record though, which includes staunch anti-women’s choice positions and allegations that he paid off sexual abusers in the clergy, should he really be on the bill at all?”

Yeah. I have that question too. First of all why go catholic in the first place? (I have personal issues with catholics already) but still – Aren’t the Obama’s Lutheran or something? Or why THAT particular dude? I’m sure there are a few progressive cardinals out there if you simply must.

Well its TOO LATE now cuz kicking homeboy to the curb at this late date would have all sorts of political headaches happening. Big mistake to have had him on the roster in the first place. Like I said. The lesser of two evils. My Dems certainly aren’t perfect, but they aren’t actively waging war on my gender and race neever. So I just deal. But STILL! Wasn’t there a Buddhist Monk available? SOMEONE?? Anyone??


I had a rant about the catholic church scheduled for right here but I think I won’t. I was raised a Quaker and because or that I have a healthy dose of religious tolerance.


The second that whole thing broke about the child abuse, the cover ups, the moving priests around without reprimand or facing justice: my tolerance went straight out the window. (And now this ish about the kids seducing their abusers???)

You hurt kids you don’t get one ounce of tolerance from ME. What that whole thing showed was that there was a knowledge of that “sort of thing happening” and the reason why I know this is because of the system set up and in place to “deal with” the priests who get caught.

/end mini rant I just can’t go on. My upbringing bone is hurting and my Buddhist karmic sensibility is getting a cramp.

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Preaching To The Choir

Far as I know most if not all of my (chronic) readers are registered Democrats who vote early and every time.



Just in case there are some who swing by on a visit from somewhere else and/or who are not:

Faux News Gets Legit on Ryan

(I’m calling this an historical moment. The day FN gets tired of gleefully reporting and supporting the bullshit and lies from the GOP and friends)

Auto Bailout Callout

Even MO truth mongering – I just can’t get ENUFF!

The TRUE Story of Mitt & Bain

I rest my case

Thanks for these links – you amazing crazies over at OHN blog :) loove yew!


Now I wasn’t going to GET INTO IT aside from my I’m Voting For Obama Post, but you know me when something needs to be said – I gotta say it.

And if you’ve been keeping tabs on my LOTD page I’ve been expressing myself there a bit on certain aspects of political shenanigans going on.

The way I see things now is that this presidential race isn’t about any of the issues held near and dear to Americans of either (any) party. You know, stuff like jobs and the economy, foreign policy, weaning ourselves from foreign oil and oil in general, health care, war and peace, education, taxes and you can fill in the rest of the stuff that’s important to YOU.

It has come down to one thing and one thing only and damn the consequences for America and how we are viewed by and our place in the global community:

Do you or do you not want a Black man in the White House?

Yep thas IT.

Damn crying shame.


Now, visitor from elsewhere, I want to let you know a few things should you be falling prey to these lies and dog whistles of fear emanating from the GOP:

1. These are not just ANY sort of White Guys. These sort of guys you prolly never met nor will ever meet – because the circles they run in? Well lets just say it takes a wee bit more than white skin to gain entrance. Try on something green instead. Multi-millions of green and even billions. They don’t know about you (or care to know about you) and the other average Americans just trying to get by and maybe even grab a slice of that pie. Also Mitt still has NOT (and by all accounts won’t never) released all his tax records. He seems to consider himself above all that. Tho he seems to really like to see documentation on his opponent…

2. They’d love to reel things back to waaaay before the suffragettes were rattling the chains around the voting booths. Are you a woman? Heaven help you if their Grand View Of The Shining City comes to pass. Go pick up a copy of The Handmaid’s Tale, read it, and get back to me.

3. They are indifferent to and at times actively hate: Any People of Color, women, disabled folk, poor people, the middle class (what’s left of it post-Bush era), children, smart (read educated) people, old people and anything and anyone LGBTesque.

Basically, you cannot this time around pick and choose. You take the whole package or you leave it. You can switch parties. You can (I think) be registered in one party and vote the other. Whatevs. Just be aware of what you are actually voting for. I can only pray the scales fall from your eyes.


I would also like to put a shoutout to those reporting the news on this election. From some of the vids I’ve seen on broadcasts (yep I cut the cord loooong ago) Something has been bothering me to NO END.

WTF is all this “Mr. Obama” crap?? It is PRESIDENT Obama thank you very MUCH! I keenly remember 4 years ago post-election (pre-cord cutting) when news heads would giggle a bit when they oopsied still calling him Mr. Obama and would correct themselves and call him President Obama.

This reversal ain’t cute. He is THE PRESIDENT and that is how he should be addressed. And don’t you know in this country once you’ve already been a president you are still referred to as Mr. President. so ummm??????

Aaaand lastly to any Black Republicans (still??) out there: derrrf?? whaa?? Get a CLUE like real quick.


Some thoughts if you think you need to get out there and help things along. (yes we DO need to) While I have a lot of confidence in thinking people making rational decisions based on true information – Since this election is not about thinking or anything rational: we may just have to pull out all the stops like we did last time. It’s not too late.

Find Your Local Dem Field Office Here: Take Action!


Race itself is a figment. Its some sort of irrational thing that was thought up out of nothing. (primarily to be used as an aid in the subjugation of one people over another). There is no biological or scientific evidence or reference for race. Even my anthropology (historically one of the most racist fields of study) books dedicated chapters to the scientific impossibility of race. Cracks me up when you look up race on the wikipedia. Its always in the context of subjugation and control. (like I said) And they try very hard not to say that it is actually indeed a figment. There is only one race on this planet: The HUMAN race.

I hope one day we’ll all get over it. But I don’t see that day coming any closer what with all these shenanigans going on. Oh WELL. Just don’t wet that big scawy bwack man in the oval office scare ya ok? lol geez.

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This Is What I Saw

Some of you might have seen a US president hopeful stumbling, bumbling and gaffing his way all over London recently. First of all, why was he even there? NPR asked the same question earlier today. Some people have even wondered out loud if this person is a sociopath. The diagnosis on that character might even be worse than that. But to me, none of that matters. This is what I saw:

I saw a person who was behaving as if his election to the presidency of the United States was already in the bag. Was a done deal. He therefore doesn’t have to act with any sense of decorum, humility or dignity because in his mind the next time he stops by the joint he’ll be the leader of the free world and what that means to him is that nothing he does or says right now will matter then anyway.

And why would someone have that much swag anyway? Enough to run a heavily edited video with his bought and paid for audience members making it look like the Black community was wholesale in his court and was going to support him and vote for him all the way? I’ll tell you why he’s walking around foreign arenas (in the first place) without a natural born care in the world to what comes out of his mouth:

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So yesterday I’m shopping at my local dollar store. Using one of my many canvas shopping bags – which this store also sells for us to use. Heck even the 7-11 stores have those available now too. (tho they feel a lil polypropylene made to me – see end of post for more on that). I happened to have been tired and achey from my (almost) daily walk and other things that made my mood ick (won’t go into those right now) so that I wasn’t paying attention to the young woman who was ringing up my purchases. I had laid my canvas bag down on the counter where normally things are bagged, and was digging into my wallet for my cash.


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About February

About February

Black History Month

Gemstone: Amethyst


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About January

Prolly should have written this post at the beginning of the month, but typical of My World And How It Is: Things happen when they do. Not necessarily when they spoze-da. C’est la vie, cherchez la fromage and KMB ok? :pppppp

About January

Gemstone: Garnet


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We sometimes forget that the March on Washington (1963) culminating in Martin Luther King Jr.’s speech,was primarily about economic equality. Civil rights and freedoms yes, but what good is freedom when you can’t put food on the table?

So I ponder these things today and wonder (like I always do) if my Birth Mother was there on that historic day.


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I’m WAY excited!

Thanks to Obama’s back to school/Education Loans WHATEVER thingy I was able to get ALL my courses paid for: WOOT!

I’m studying Health Information Technology and later towards the end of my Assoc Degree I can even branch off into Medical Transcription/Billing.

I’m so pleased!

This is going to allow me to (finally!) get a gig that is on the cutting edge of what’s needed. Since the health care industry is going to be revamped with an eye on high tech and digitizing information.

What’s not to love?


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